“Never underestimate the power of thought; it is the greatest path to discovery.” — Idowu Koyenikan

On my personal path to discovery, I find this to be true. In fact, the more I learn about the power of my mind, the more truth I find in this statement.

It’s true in any area of life, and I want to specifically address how it can change your parenting and your relationships.

Thinking About Your Thoughts

Have you ever thought about your thoughts and how they affect your parenting? Have you ever considered how the energy of your mind is having an enormous impact on your relationship with your teen?

My friend, Leslie Householder, says that the hard work happens in your mind. In terms of parenting, this means to me that everything I do, all the actions I take, are secondary to what is happening in my mind. Whether I am allowing the thoughts to happen or I’m creating and managing them, those thoughts most definitely are translating into my daily actions. They are affecting my parenting.

The Energy of Your Thoughts

Einstein proved that everything is made of energy and has its own vibration. Even solid material is vibrating. And everything has its own vibrational frequency. When I first learned about this back in school, I don’t think I really comprehended what that means. I’m not sure I still fully comprehend it, although I understand it now at a deeper level.

I have taught piano lessons for years, and I often demonstrate the sound of different intervals (notes played at the same time) by inviting my students to listen for how they vibrate together. I don’t know if it’s just me, but I can feel when the sound waves are crashing into each other in a dissonant interval. On the other hand, I can also feel the waves moving harmoniously together in a more consonant, or sweet-sounding, interval. So to me, the visualization of vibrations coming together beautifully – or repelling each other – is easy.

This is true even for our thoughts. Our thoughts are made of energy, which means they are vibrating. The more positive the thought, the higher the vibration. More negative thoughts have a much lower vibration. And because our thoughts have a specific vibration, they will attract emotions, beliefs, actions, and results that vibrate harmoniously with them.

How our Thoughts Become Reality

Here is the progression that happens when we have a thought, whether or not we are even aware of it:

You can see this is a self-perpetuating cycle. The energy of our thoughts becomes our emotions, which is what we respond to. Emotions create a biological chemical reaction. The longer we sit in a thought or emotion, the more we grow accustomed to the chemical state it produces. And our body responds to that energy at a subconscious level, creating habits and behaviors that reinforce the original thought. And as we see the results generated by our behaviors and habits, we usually interpret them as evidence that our original thought was correct.

Changing Our Lives by Changing Our Thoughts

There are endless applications to parenting and relationships. It’s human nature to focus on the behaviors (both mine, as a parent, and my child’s), and even the emotions. Then we feel frustrated that, try as we might to change things, they just don’t change. 

The only truly effective path to change is by focusing on our thoughts. It takes hard work. I can’t change a thought once and expect the change to be permanent. Not if it’s a state that I’ve been in for some time. My subconscious, where my beliefs and perceptions have developed, is slow to change. I need to apply concerted effort to holding the new thought and infusing it with emotion before I start to see any change.

Learn More

To dive deep into how to change your thoughts to change your life, consider joining me for my Guided Mindset Mastery class, beginning April 27. This valuable and powerful class will help you learn the laws of thought and how to improve your life by applying the laws daily.

If you want to learn more about how this principle relates specifically to parenting, my Hearts in Tune Guided Course might be perfect for you.

My friend, Matthew Pilling, and I talk about how thoughts affect parenting in Episode 1 of the Hearts in Tune podcast.